career • love balance in the time of COVID-19

 

From the outside, your life looked as though it was pretty good. And then COVID-19 happened.

 

Now, things are not quite right.

 

You have a short fuse and the regrets that go with it. You feel increasingly depleted, and you don't have the emotional bandwidth you had before.

 

Maybe you bark at your partner or kids. Angry and hurt, they lash back. There is a growing distance between you that you don't want.

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Perhaps you've been called-out at work. It's been hard to focus while working from home, team engagement has suffered and your productivity is not what it needs to be. You worry about your coming performance review. 

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Time-off no longer replenishes you. When you take a break, the relief is short-lived. It seems your tension is locked inside, unable to get out.

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You're tired of feeling stuck in not doing better.

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Life warns us when we are out of balance. That's a good thing. When we heed those warnings, we reduce our risk of broken relationships, career sabotage, and personal illness.

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Here are some of the warnings that it may be time to make changes for our well-being. Our risk increases for each one that is in our lives:

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physical warnings

● headaches

● shoulder, neck, and/or back pain 

● poor quality sleep

● compulsive comfort eating

● disinterest in sex

● excessive tiredness

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personal warnings

● negativity/moodiness

● forgetful/distracted

● feeling disconnected from others

● feeling burdened/weighted down

● self-doubt/feeling like a failure

● excessive gaming/porn use

● excessive alcohol/drug use

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love / career warnings

● difficulty focusing/paying attention

● missing deadlines 

● making avoidable mistakes

● given work performance warning

● neglecting your partner/family

● taking stress out on partner/family

● preoccupied with work at home

● preoccupied by home at work 

● checked-out and/or shut down

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It doesn't have to be this way. You can have a full and satisfying life  without compromising your wellbeing. If you are ready to replace depletion and emotional fatigue with sustained resilience and balance, I want to help.

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We will work together to identify what is keeping you from creating the kind of healthy balance that supports you in love and career. Then, once identified, we will work together to put in place what can help you thrive.

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Therapy can help you:

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● reduce headache frequency

● reduce shoulder, neck, and/or back tension 

● have less digestive problems

● gain more replenishing, higher quality sleep

● comfort eating

● more satisfying sex

● increase sustained energy

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personal warning signals

● negativity

● push people away

● forgetfulness

● feeling disconnected from who you are

● increased moodiness, irritation and/or anger

● feeling burdened/weighted down

● apathy/questioning your purpose

● feel like a failure/doubting yourself

● escaping into gaming, gambling and/or porn

● excessive alcohol and/or drug use

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home and work warning signals

● difficulty focusing/paying attention

● missing deadlines 

● making avoidable mistakes

● given performance warning at work

● reacting to feedback as personal attacks

● neglecting your partner at home

● preoccupation with work at home

● preoccupation with home at work 

● checked-out and/or shut down

● taking stress out on partner/family

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At work, you can:

• create an established reputation of reliability

• be sought out because of your credibility

• gain trust because of your strong and fair ethics

• be respected for your honest, constructive, expert feedback 

• reverse reactive responses that lead to negative outcomes

• be appreciated as a trustworthy team-player and/or mentor

• stay replenished with ongoing healthy renewal

• enjoy new challenges and growth opportunities 

• gain creative and productive use of your time

 

In love and romance, you can:

• gain a profoundly satisfying relationship

• create a haven of safety and security

• deepen and strengthen intimacy when there is conflict

• enjoy acceptance grounded in truth and transparency

• full-spectrum intimacy that is both curious and passionate

• transform difficult conversations to enrich and deepen

• replace compulsive spending with wealth-building 

• end out-of-control gaming and/or porn abuse

• stop alcohol and/or substance abuse

• renew your romance and fun together

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e risk sabotaging the kind of full-spectrum intimacy mutually enriching satisfying relationship emotionally, sexually, intellectually.

 

Sexual and emotional intimacy often suffers as we struggle with business travel, team engagement demands, and doing what it takes to stay ahead.

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, is that you want to enhance what you've accomplished.

 

ways to bypass stress and increase resilience through practice of daily renewal and reinforcement of resilience skills for work and intimate partnership

 

 

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Use an integrated approach of assessment (biopsychosocial), taking complete history of life experiences. This is followed by therapy designed around your specific needs and goals. Depending upon your needs and goals, this can range from sessions every other week to daily intensives.

 

Can include consultation with a psychiatrist, physician, nutritionist or other specialist as needed.

 

Outcome:

reduced stress

increased production at work

satisfying working relationships

better relationship at home with partner, family

 

Have worked with high-performing individuals in the tech industry, attorneys, entertainment industry, performing arts, owners of privately held corporations for over twenty-five years. Familiar with the nuances involved with the demands on high performers. Sessions are discrete and confidential. Come to my office, online, or on-site visits.

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Perhaps you are not sure whether you need therapy. You may be wondering whether coaching may bring you the benefit you need.