stop self sabotage

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Here you are again. Another breakup. Or perhaps you've been terminated at work.

 

Despite your best efforts, things seem to unravel and fall apart. You find yourself wondering why failure is chasing you. 

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Repeated failures in love and career are often accompanied by one or more of the following behaviors:

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At work --

• overpromising and exaggeration

• lost credibility

• unethical compromise

• deficient status reports 

• excessive budget spends

• abusive language/belittling others

• alcohol and/or substance abuse 

• gaming and/or porn use at work

• productivity inertia

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In love and romance --

• personalizing criticism

• avoiding difficult conversations

• lying 

• checking-out/stonewalling

• putting work over your partner

• belittling/verbally abusing your partner

• compulsive spending

• out-of-control gaming and/or porn abuse

• alcohol and/or substance abuse

• secret sex with someone else

 

When we self-sabotage, its not only our relationships and careers that suffer. So does our health and resilience.

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Does any of the following sound familiar?

 

You struggle with poor quality sleep. You stay up late at night, clicking the remote or scrolling through Facebook until you are no longer able to stay awake. Perhaps while waiting for sleep to rescue you, you overeat and binge on comfort food.

 

The next morning, you skip out on exercise because you are too tired. Because you are stressed from needing to get to work on time, you bark at your partner or your kids. Angry and hurt, they lash back.

 

When you arrive at work, you feel pressured to compensate. Not only for being late, but because you have a hard time focusing. Your productivity is not what you know it should be. 

 

Worried about your coming performance review, you take on projects requiring longer hours that take away from your life at home. When you finally drag home, you just want to collapse into your chair. 

 

You pick up the remote and start clicking, or scrolling through Facebook. The next morning, the cycle repeats.

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The worst part of self-sabotage is that, when it goes on long enough, it can deceive us into believing that it is impossible for us to create the kind of lasting, healthy changes that we want.

 

It doesn't have to be this way. Sustained resilience and success in love and career is not beyond your reach. You can gain a full and satisfying life without compromising your wellbeing.

 

If you ready to jump off the painful merry-go-round of self-sabotage and replace it with something better, I can help.

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With intentional, practiced effort, we will work together to identify what is keeping you from creating the healthy changes you want for yourself in love and career. Then, once identified, we will work together to help you put in place what will help you thrive.

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At work, you can:

• create an established reputation of reliability

• be sought out because of your credibility

• gain trust because of your strong and fair ethics

• be respected for your honest, constructive, expert feedback 

• reverse reactive responses that lead to negative outcomes

• be appreciated as a trustworthy team-player and/or mentor

• stay replenished with ongoing healthy renewal

• enjoy new challenges and growth opportunities 

• gain creative and productive use of your time

 

In love and romance, you can:

• gain a profoundly satisfying relationship

• create a haven of safety and security

• deepen and strengthen intimacy when there is conflict

• enjoy acceptance grounded in truth and transparency

• full-spectrum intimacy that is both curious and passionate

• transform difficult conversations to enrich and deepen

• replace compulsive spending with wealth-building 

• end out-of-control gaming and/or porn abuse

• stop alcohol and/or substance abuse

• renew your romance and fun together

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If this sounds like something that would benefit you, call me. I have been helping men and women gain freedom from self-sabotage for over 25 years.

 

Instead of a cookie-cutter, one-size-fits-all approach, we team together in a multi-factor approach designed around you.

 

Whether a seasoned professional or a starving student, it is likely that I can help you.

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I invite you to all me at 425-247-1880 or email me for a 15-minute free consultation. I'm here to help. Let's talk.

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